A bride-to-be declining to make her wedding accessible for her niece, who requires wheelchair assistance, has gone viral on Reddit, where it received over 12,000 upvotes.
In post shared on Reddit’s Am I The A****** (AITA) subforum, user throwaway_formia said Cassidy (the bride-to-be) informed her that the wedding will be held at “a beach near our city, and it will completely be held in the sand.”
The user said her sister told her she “just wanted to let me know before she sent the official invite because of Mia [the user’s 8-year-old daughter].”
The poster, who is a 34-year-old single mom, said: “Mia has been disabled since the day she was born and needs wheelchair assistance and constant care whenever she is awake…
“I truly have never been more shocked and disappointed in my sister. You would think she would at least check in with me before she reserved the beach space because Mia obviously can’t come. And now she’s only telling me because it’s set in stone and there’s nothing she can change.”
According to the user, her sister said “she will not change the location” of the wedding because she and her fiancé met on this beach and “it has been their dream ever since to get married here after they also got engaged here.”
According to a survey of 11,646 couples who got married in 2022, conducted by The Knot, a wedding planning website, just over half of the couples surveyed (55 percent) chose a location that had special meaning to them.
The vast majority (91 percent) of destination weddings took place within the U.S. and nearly six in 10 couples (57 percent) selected a wedding location within 30 miles of where they currently live, according to the survey.
The user in the latest Reddit post said that when she tried to explain “how hurtful this is to Mia,” Cassidy “immediately started deflecting.”
According to the user, Cassidy claimed the couple checked “to make sure the beach had a sand friendly wheelchair for me to rent ($110/day)…the audacity to ask your guests to be paying just to make it to the event (especially when she knows I cannot afford this).”
When the poster suggested her sister pay for the rental, the bride-to-be allegedly kept saying how the couple “already had to cut so much out of their budget and plans because they also can’t afford much.”
The user noted: “You’re already paying for a whole wedding, but can’t afford a rental for your FAMILY to come? I was talking to some moms of children with disabilities and they all agree that it sounds like Cassidy doesn’t even want Mia there and is using all of this as an excuse.
“I’m thinking about just telling her that we won’t be attending her wedding and supporting a person who’s inconsiderate to her own family.”
